Dating Tips | What Not To Do On Your First Date

First date tips for guys are one of the most commonly searched queries on Google. And we are not surprised — with the rapid rise of online dating apps and sites, and singles mixers, on top of traditional dating methods, dates are truly in!

It is actually a good thing because it can only mean that men are on the active lookout for winning dating tips rather than relying on winging everything or following old-fashioned tropes.

And since you’re here, we can safely assume that you’ve scoured the web (and maybe the books as well!) for more of these dating tips and want something that isn’t usually served — the first date don’ts.

We won’t keep you from your goal any longer! Read below to learn how to navigate your first date for a fun and fruitful time together.

1. Don’t mention your ex. Even if you and your ex ended things on good terms, you shouldn’t bring them as conversation starters on a date with a new person. People don’t usually prefer to hear about their significant other’s past even after years of solid relationship, what more on the first date?

   Also, sob stories about exes don’t go well with dinner and wine. Your date isn’t your sounding board if you must know.




2. Don’t get drunk. Alcohol may help in easing the awkwardness during the date, but you shouldn’t chug more than what you can handle. Because when it hits, your tall glasses could make you believe that it’s fine to be rowdy, too emotional or start a brawl outside.

   Alcohol as a social lubricant is fine and all. Just make sure that you aren’t becoming your date’s deadweight throughout the night.




3. Don’t lie. Lying may prove purposeful for some occasions, but the first date isn’t one of them. If you want to have your partner’s trust and confidence, then you should know better than to tell false stories or hide facts about yourself from them.

   While your date deserves not to know the nitty-gritty of your life, it is important to disclose details pertinent to the budding relationship, such as current civil status, number of kids, or current major interests. While everything ultimately depends on you, be sure to remember that there are no secrets that time doesn’t reveal.




4. Don’t center the discussion solely around you. We are not saying to not put your two cents in the conversation. Rather, you should learn how to balance the exchange by asking your date something about themselves as well. Be an active listener and be truly interested in their stories.

   If you drone on and on, you are basically setting up the picture of your future together — where the whole of the relationship is only centered on you. We don’t believe anyone would like that.




5. Don’t talk about your future as a couple. It’s just the first date, there’s no need to plan ahead — especially when you aren’t even sure that your partner wants to see you again. You will come off as creepy, and that’s not a good thing.

   A good rule of thumb for dating is to come without any expectations. Enjoy your time. Leave the planning until at least they bring it up on their own.

Date blunders aren’t unheard of. But remember, most of these stem from factors a person can control. So keep these tips in mind and we’re sure that your chance to find love will significantly increase.

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